Sexpectations part 4 – On kinks and fetishes and consent

Lots of people enjoy lots of different things. This is true of pretty much anything, sex and porn being no exception. You can be sexually active and consume porn for decades and still find new things you like. There’s nothing wrong at all with having likes and dislikes, fantasies and preferences. Some things may not make any sense at all, some things may make perfect sense, if it works for you then don’t worry about it.

The biggest thing you need to remember is that there is a difference between real life and fantasy. Many things that people enjoy in porn would absolutely not be okay to do in real life. Read what you like, watch what you like, but if it takes place irl it needs to be between happily consenting adults. You can like something without being interested in trying it in real life. Liking something does not imply consent. Being curious does not imply consent. The only thing that counts as consent is willingly given consent. You can be curious about something and decide you don’t like it as you’re trying it too. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. If your partner says stop then stop!

Tl;dr I don’t give a flip flying friend what you do, as long as everyone involved is a happily consenting adults.

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